If I woulda known then…

24 03 2009

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

Shortly after my now ex-husband moved out for the very last time (many, many years ago) a good friend of mine suggested I read this book. Which I did. And I loved it.

I wish I would have read it years earlier because I think if I had, I would have made some slightly different choices and my path to divorce would have likely happened sooner rather than later. It was an eye opening book to say the least and while I immediately applied what I learned from the book to my deteriorating marriage, I eventually applied some of the same lessons to my interactions with other people in my life.

Over the years I loaned the book out to many people and unfortunately there eventually came a time when it left my hands and never returned. I think of this book often when dealing with difficult relationships (romantic and otherwise). I still remember one lesson in particular that I think of often. Paraphrased (probably horribly) it is this:

If the person you are with suddenly, magically, unexpectedly changed their behavior and became the man/woman of your dreams, would it still be too late?

What questions do you ask yourself when trying to decide how to deal with a relationship gone bad? What is your process for determining how you move forward or if you move forward with this person in your life?




One response

27 03 2009

Love it, also lent it out and it disappeared…hope it found its way to help someone else. By the way your blog rocks the free world.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: